What is Success…and How do we Measure It?

I know what success means to me.  Success is – living the perfect day, each and everyday.

My perfect days is simple – it would involve an early start – exercise, fresh food, lots of time spent with my family, and working on my investments.

The way I measure my success in life is to see how close each day comes to my perfect day.

I’ve tried counting cash in the bank, houses, sports cars and boats.  I’ve been on numerous holidays and travelled the world.

I’ve been lucky enough to work in my “dream job” as a scuba diving instructor on the Great Barrier Reef.

I’ve been up mountains, boarded down them, run marathons and found my inner self but none of these things make me successful in my own mind.

I have found that to measure my success in life is best done by comparing my current day against my perfect day.  This gives me a instant and accurate gauge on how close I am to that one goal.

Simply by knowing what a perfect day entails means I can work towards it.

So often, usually when we have time to reflect, we look at the masses of useless “stuff” we have accumulated over the years, on relection; we stop and wonder – do we really need it? what made us buy it? did it make us happy? and most importantly, if it did make us happy, for how long?

The law of material attachment!

Thinking of it this way – If one bit of stuff was going to make us 100% happy then there would be no more searching, no more purchasing, no more striving for the next big thing.

The material world as we know it would collapse.  Let’s imagine, if the new iPhone was so great, so perfect, so complete that we consumers didn’t need another Apple product ever again.  They wouldn’t sell their updates, apps or their iPhone 11, 12, 13.  And that would be that!  Apple’s investors wouldn’t be very impressed.

Digital marketing is so subtle, so powerful and taps into our mind that it makes us believe we need more cool stuff or increasingly more cool experiences to better ourselves and our lives.

I see it in my 9-year-old boy, he wants the latest football kit every season, the latest Nike football boots every time they bring out a new colour and every new “skin” or dance move on Fortnite.  His power of persuasion is to be admired – Daddy I need it NOW!!

He doesn’t get everything he wants or needs but when he does after a week, a day or sometimes even an hour when he realises that it doesn’t fulfil him.  He quickly moves on to the next thing!

Like me his perfect day doesn’t require “stuff”.  His perfect day involves time spent with the people he cares for and the people that care for him in a space and time when he can be at peace in the moment, with no distractions of what next or what if.

In essence, my perfect day means I have time to do what I want – when I want – with whom I want, but the devil is in the detail, because that allows us to monitor our progress.

What is your perfect day?  Think about it and make a start by writing it down, do it alone or do it with your family.  This is a really powerful way to make a mark in the sand so you know where you are and where you want to get to.

Here is an example of my perfect day :-

  • 10 minutes of meditation with my children.
  • A 5k run, 100 press ups, 10 chin ups, 10 tricep dips, 100 sit ups with my best mate.
  • Healthy family breakfast in the fresh air (3 poached eggs, bacon, spinach, avocado and chilli.
  • Check in with work, news and markets.
  • In the garden, small DIY jobs and house work , this may seem odd but keep my “house in order” makes me feel very content and like I am part of a home.
  • Healthy lunch at a restaurant at the beach or near water so I can swim before or afterwards.
  • Reading, audiobook and writing for an hour in the afternoon for some creative fun and new business ideas or planning family parties / weekend activities.
  • A game of 5-a-side football, squash or tennis to give me some competition.
  • Dinner with the family around the table at home, catch up and see what everyone got up to during their day.
  • A film, tv, music…time to just chill.

Can I do all this everyday, probably not but I’m getting closer and if I was told I had one last day to enjoy my life I’d make it happen.

Ask yourself would it look different if you were a billionaire – here is Mr Branson routine – https://www.virgin.com/richard-branson/my-usual-daily-routine

For two and a half years I worked with a billionaire everyday, he travelled the world and worked incredibly hard but everyday he arrived at 9am and left at 6pm in-between he went to the gym, drank his favourite bubble tea and read articles to stay up to speed with his industry but I’m pretty sure that was his perfect working day.

Mapping it out puts things into perspective and helps you decide what is really important.

You might even find you are spending a vast amount of your time on something that isn’t in your perfect day and doesn’t help you get there.  With a new perspective, you may choose to immediately stop doing it.

That extra time will give you space to focus on the things that would be in your perfect day and will help you achieve the perfect day.

Life has unexpected events, we have all lost many hours to these events that we could never have predicted.  I might spend 60 hours in one week on a single project trying to solve a problem that didn’t exist yesterday.

I love working, because I enjoy the effect.  I have a cause, helping other business owners create their own success.  I have a clear strategy and it’s on my own terms.  The effect I gain enables me to live my perfect day.

I don’t want to be a slave to my business or a boss but it fits into my perfect day because the end goal, and more importantly how it makes me feels along the way, fits.

If it fits into your perfect day, or helps you on the journey towards it, then you are on the road to the ultimate prize in life.

Bon Chance!

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